Suggested questions to guide your conversation

MEETING THINGS TO DISCUSS

1

What is this about – orientation for the mother/caregiver (See resource)
Mutual interview: This is me (you each answer the same interview questions) (See resource)
The baby/infant’s development – how is it going and what is important now? (See resource)

2

Mutual interview: This is what motherhood means to me (See resource)
The baby/child’s development – how is it going and what is important now? (See resource)

3

Mutual interview: This is what I’ve learned and where my life is going (See resource)
The baby/child’s development – how is it going and what is important now? (See resource)
Are you continuing
the relationship
beyond 4 months?
After the third interview you both need to decide if you would like to continue the relationship. If not, the next meeting will be your last (as expected). If you want to continue, you need to contact the mother or caregiver before your next meeting and ask her if she would like to continue the relationship beyond the planned 4 months. If she does not – respect her decision and tell her you are looking forward to meeting with her one last time.

4

Mutual interview: This is what the past 4 months have meant to me. (See resource)
The baby/child’s development – how is it going and what is important now? /Or if this is the final meeting what is important for her going forward. (See resource)
StoryCorps Please consider using the StoryCorps Phone app to structure, record and share your fourth interview exploring what the relationship has meant to you both. By sharing your interview, you and the mother/caregiver will give us permission to use the interview or parts of it to encourage other people to get involved. The more people start doing this, the greater the change that we can bring about, for children and parents/caregivers in South Africa. (See resource)
If this was your final meeting, end it on a positive and helpful note, wishing each other all the best. You could give her a Baby/Infant Development Information Print-out and perhaps a small gift for the child (a storybook is a good idea). Remember that ongoing relationships are the most important change agents. Don’t give up. Try again with someone else until you find a good match.

MEETING 1 – Things to Discuss


  • What is this about – orientation for the mother/caregiver (See resource below)

  • Mutual interview: This is me (you each answer the same interview questions) (See resource below)

  • The baby/infant’s development – how is it going and what is important now? (See resource below)

MEETING 2 – Things to Discuss


  • Mutual interview: This is what motherhood means to me (See resource below)

  • The baby/child’s development – how is it going and what is important now? (See resource below)

MEETING 3 – Things to Discuss


  • Mutual interview: This is what I’ve learned and where my life is going (See resource below)

  • The baby/child’s development – how is it going and what is important now? (See resource below)

Are you continuing the relationship beyond 4 months?

After the third interview you both need to decide if you would like to continue the relationship. If not, the next meeting will be your last (as expected). If you want to continue, you need to contact the mother or caregiver before your next meeting and ask her if she would like to continue the relationship beyond the planned 4 months. If she does not – respect her decision and tell her you are looking forward to meeting with her one last time.

MEETING 4 – Things to Discuss


  • Mutual interview: This is what the past 4 months have meant to me. (See resource below)

  • The baby/child’s development – how is it going and what is important now? /Or if this is the final meeting what is important for her going forward. (See resource below)

  • Please consider using the StoryCorps Phone app to structure, record and share your fourth interview exploring what the relationship has meant to you both. By sharing your interview, you and the mother/caregiver will give us permission to use the interview or parts of it to encourage other people to get involved. The more people start doing this, the greater the change that we can bring about, for children and parents/caregivers in South Africa. (See resource below)

  • If this was your final meeting, end it on a positive and helpful note, wishing each other all the best. You could give her a Baby/Infant Development Information Print-out and perhaps a small gift for the child (a storybook is a good idea). Remember that ongoing relationships are the most important change agents. Don’t give up. Try again with someone else until you find a good match.

If you weren’t able to record and share your final interview, please let us know about your experience.

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